[Extracted from the monthly ECO NEWS - May 2019]
One Person At A Time
Thinking about how miraculously our program works, I marvel at how we have reached a number like 2 million in our fellowship. How does that happen? That’s when the phrase came to me: one person, one relationship, one story at a time.
We affect others, one person at a time. That is the power of sponsorship….women with women, and men with men. Hearing a woman tell me “you can phone me any time, night or day really blew my socks off. I recall phoning my sponsor to ask questions that were too personal to share in meetings, or questions I was too afraid to ask within a group. Having that one person that I could count on made such a difference for me. She continues to be my lifeline; some issues will always be too personal to share beyond my sponsor who has become a trusted friend.
One relationship at a time can make a huge difference. Once I learned that I could trust another woman, I began to recover. Building trust is the result of knowing two things:
#1 that she does what she tells me she will do. We’d make a date for coffee, and she was there. She’d suit up and show up, over and over again. My sponsors were not flaky. Consistency in word and deed was new to me in recovery. It’s the result of honesty in AA, and impressed me about the whole fellowship. My sponsor was not the only one who was “good for her word.” What a concept.
And #2 that she does not share my personal information, i.e. gossip about what I’ve told her.to anyone else. It doesn’t take long to figure this out. The effects of hearing tidbits from a personal share being discussed among others is absolutely devastating.
One story at a time can change lives. Identifying with another person’s story tells me I am not alone. It helps us to find the strength to make a different choice. Isn’t it wonderful how we come from all walks of life, all different belief systems, lifestyles and cultures. We may look different on the outside, yet somehow we are so similar on the inside…..with the same feelings, emotions and thoughts; and all with a common desire to achieve sobriety. We’re all able to find our own personal version of a higher power.
We have many ways to hear these stories: in the weekly meetings of my home town, by reading beyond the first 164 pages of the Big Book, attending online meetings and service events outside the comfort of my home group. I can choose from district meetings, local service events (like CPC luncheons), regional forums, assemblies, conferences and conventions. If you aren’t familiar with these events, ask your sponsor!
That’s my story …. I’ve been truly blessed beyond measure.
Thank you for your time, and thank you always for my sobriety.
Area 78 Delegate, Alberta, NT & W. Nunavut